Welcome to Marriage Monday
How Marriage Works:
21 Secrets Every Couple Needs to Know
Secret #10: A Wife’s Submission Empowers Her Husband
Q. Why all the fuss about submission? Is it really relevant in today’s egalitarian society?
These last 18 months that my husband has been without a full time job, a time we faced many great storms in our lives, submission has grown in my heart. From having a VERY dysfunctional marriage with two VERY dysfunctional people in this marriage, God has transformed our marriage.
Submission was a VERY bad word for me for a very long time. "Him tell me what to do. Me submit to him?" Give me a break.
God has taught me submission is also honoring and respecting my husband. That is HUGE ... Loving him, commanding me to love him because God KNOWS my flesh would rather not some days.
I have learned that submission brings SO many fruits of the Holy Spirit into the marriage and into the home life period that no other trait can.
It is truly mind boggling but so POWERFUL.–Anne Onymous
A. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, sister! Praise the Lord. Yes, biblical submission is more relevant than ever, especially during these challenging economic times. If they work together like a pair of trained Olympic skaters—where the female trusts her partner to guide and support her moves—a couple can glide through life with tremendous strength and beauty.
As a general rule, women’s brains are wired holistically. We function best when we’re in loving, nurturing relationships. In social situations, we naturally take turns playing "Mom" exchanging conversation, care, and emotional support.
On the other hand, most men thrive in competitive situations that establish a hierarchical “pecking order”—particularly in the world of work. Winning against stiff odds helps them feel respected and successful.
When a wife voluntarily chooses to submit to her husband by allowing him to take the lead in their marriage, they both reap many benefits. No longer feeling like he's in competition against her, a husband feels needed and trusted.
This kind of feminine receptivity helps empower a man to shoulder his God-given responsibilities. He rises to the challenge of fulfilling his role as the main bread winner for their family, and he intentionally engages his wife in loving relationship during their off hours.
If you want a more detailed explanation of how a wife's submission empowers her husband please read:
“What Drives Men … and How Wives Can Get the Love They Need”
Related Bible Study
Click here for a short Bible study on submission from Eph 5:22-33. I hope you give it a whirl! Answers to the 25 questions are posted here.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
(Eph 5: 22-24 NIV)
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