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Dear Discerning Reader,
If you’ve ever been divorced & remarried (or if you married a divorced person), please be aware that this entry is not addressed to you. I trust you’re doing your best to appropriate God’s redemptive grace in your new life and relationship.
However, if you're a "wannabe" divorcee, the intent of the following post is to point you to the research, so you can make your own intelligent and informed decision.
The Power of Commitment
Every single one of us faces challenges in marriage. Gender differences, childhood trauma, financial stress, and a myriad of other life issues bring conflict and pain. Even in the best of circumstances, our innate self-focus can make staying married seem nearly impossible.
At some point in your marriage, separation and divorce might look like the best option. But is it?
Focus on the Family produced a readable synopsis of an important research report that was published by the Institute for American Values. Their findings debunk the modern myth that someone in a troubled marriage is faced with a choice between either...
The research team interviewed 5,232 married adults twice. In the first round, 645 individuals reported being unhappily married. Five years later, these same adults were interviewed again. Some had divorced or separated and some had stayed married.
Same Marriage: New Happiness Five Years Later
Researchers were astounded to find a full two-thirds of the unhappily married spouses were actually happier in their marriages five years later. Surprisingly, the opposite was found to be true for those who had divorced. Why?
Among those who initialy rated their marriages as
"very unhappy," but remained together, nearly 80 percent considered themselves "happily married" five years later.
1. "Extreme Makeover: How God Renewed Our Marriage Against All the Odds" by Chrysalis