It's Marriage Monday: Kiss Me!
We are the best of friends, e-Dad and I. We work at home together and we play together. And because we’re empty nesters, we’re not pre-occupied with precious little people any more. (Yes it will happen for you too… some day. Meanwhile, savor every minute of your parenting adventure.)
After 30-plus years of marriage, e-Dad and I have developed a Culture of Us that would be impossible to duplicate with anyone else. We’re like one.
But The Us Factor didn’t just happen by itself. We’ve really worked at it. And we still do.
After 30-plus years of marriage, e-Dad and I have developed a Culture of Us that would be impossible to duplicate with anyone else. We’re like one.
But The Us Factor didn’t just happen by itself. We’ve really worked at it. And we still do.
Code Phrases
For instance, thirty minutes of conversation after dinner keeps us current with each other. e-Dad’s rehearsed phrase, “Do you miss me?” blows off tension when I’m upset about something. Instead of mistakenly feeling blamed for my bad mood, he remembers that he’s needed. That's my cue to say, "It's not your fault." Then e-Dad is free to give me the sympathy and understanding that I crave. We've repeated these important code phrases over and over.But The Us Factor didn’t just happen by itself. We’ve really worked at it. And we still do.
One of the things I love about e-Dad is his affectionate nature. Without fail, whenever I head out the door, he immediately stops what he’s doing and stands up to kiss me good-bye. (Must be my lip gloss.)
I return the favor by kissing him as he walks in through the front door after a long day of meetings. Like the suave leading man in some foreign film sometimes he calls out “Dahlingk, I’m home!” (That usually means he has a paycheck in his pocket.)
Of course, we smooch and snuggle at other times throughout the day. After thoroughly analyzing this delightful custom of lips-pressed-on-lips, I came up with ten kissing styles. What’s yours?
Ten (Bible Sanctioned) Kisses to Keep the Temp Up
...all… year… long! *Fanning self*
1. The slobbery kiss…But Esau ran to meet Jacob and embraced him; he threw his arms around his neck and kissed him. And they wept. (Gen 33:4)
2. The cheek peck…
“Greet one another with a holy kiss.” (Rom 16:16)
3. The passionate kiss…
"She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazen face she said…" (Prov 7:13)
4. The woodpecker…
“Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” (Prov 27:6)
5. The tender kiss…
"Then Jacob kissed Rachel and began to weep aloud."
6. The grab 'em by the beard (but no biting) kiss…
“Joab said to Amasa, ‘How are you, my brother?’ Then Joab took Amasa by the beard with his right hand to kiss him.”
(2 Sam 20:9)
7. The kiss of humility…
As she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them. (Luke 7:38)
8. The “Dahlingk, I’m home!” kiss…
"Greet one another with a kiss of love." (1 Pet 5:14)
9. Blowing kisses…
"And my heart became secretly enticed, and my hand threw a kiss from my mouth." (Job 21:27)
10. Kissing in the dark…
“Let Him kiss me with the kisses of His mouth, for your love is more delightful than wine.” (Song of Songs 1:2-4)
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What's your kissing style?
19 Comments:
I love your post sweetie.
Love your post! Probably could claim most of those kissing styles at some time or another--depends on the mood, the kids, the level of busyness, etc.
Thank you for the reminder that "Us Factor" is something that takes work. So often, I want it to just happen when I know that is totally unrealistic.
I loved this....so may kisses for many reasons. We all do them. Loved the scripture messages too. Thank you so much for sharing!
I LOVE the angle on kisses! Who knew that the Word had 10 different styles of kisses? How sharp you are!
Like you and E-Dad, Dave and I are empty-nesters. I have to admit I have fallen in love with that man all over again! When we married, I was a single mom of 2 little girls and then we added 2 more to our brood. Now that the youngest has flown off to college I told him,
"This must be what it's like to be a Newlywed!"
Connie
Word Verification:
sofathro
"What one covers oneself with when reclining on a couch!"
Very romantic post here. Got to follow what your'r doing and introduce these to my fellow believers of marriage. thanks for posting a very inspiring message. Kisses for you.
I love that you broke down the different types of kisses! Thanks for the reminder to enjoy our years of (active) parenting and that we have much to look forward to.
Oh how touching!!
You guys are something...
I really enjoyed this E-mom, both writing my post and reading yours as well.
Your "Us Factor" was sweet. It's obvious how much you adore, and respect each other.
Thanks for caring so passionately about a topic so sacred as marriage!
Blessings to you and E-Dad♥
Thanks emom for hosting us as usual!! Yes it takes work and those little things like kisses are such an important part!!
Much love,
Angela
Never thought about categorizing my kisses. . .I just take 'em as they come and enjoy!
I enjoyed this month's topic, e-Mom. Thanks.
Great idea to make a list of types of kisses! I'm enjoying reading everyone's thoughts today.
God bless you!
Bethany
Awesome post emom! (Yes, it's me...I'm still not officially blogging again but hope to soon!) I especially loved the "code phrases" you two use...Reading this reminded me of the book, "Severe Mercy" a true love story written by a friend of C.S. Lewis about he and his wife and how they purposely built their own "us factor".
Hugs,
~Tammy
Loved this post...and wow..wish I had included more Scriptures! my kissing style?? I LOVE kissing in the dark.....soooooo romantic...and my absolute fave (my hubby would agree) kissing in the woods in the rain....my post is up...
I never thought there's a lot of kissing styles in the Bible. Thanks for sharing them and for hosting this very helpful meme. It's my first time here and I feel so blessed to read everyone's post and to be connected with God-loving women with all their great thoughts. God bless you more:)
Like everyone else, I'm blown away by how many kisses and Scriptures attached to them there are.
I love the code words, too.
Great topic!
E-Mom! That was such a sweet post! I think you two are just so cutie patootie! And I thought the spin on kissing was priceless! I think we need to try all of them...like now!
Thanks for your sweet comments...and I'm SO glad you guys tried the recipe! I took my Mom and Dad leftovers the next day...Dad is usually so picky but he loved it!
Big huge hugs,
Jen
Didn't know all those types of kisses were in the Bible. Who says the Bible's boring? It's an amazing love story, far more passionate than anything Hollywood can cook up.
E-mom, your post helped me. I just wrote about how romantically challenged I am. Now, I have ten different kisses to try. :)
I agree with you about growing together. Over the years some things just come naturally, like we have always been married. Great post!
ooh! I love this post. It's so sweet and the 10 ways to kiss... lol. I love the way you write, you make reading effortless.
Thanks for stopping by my blog.
Denise: Thanks!
MiPa: I think "The Us Factor" CAN just happen... but only after much consistent effort to put it in motion. :~D
Jaime: "We do all of them" *Fanning self!* Good for you!
Constance: "I have to admit I have fallen in love with that man all over again!" Hooray, I love to hear things like this... :~D
Gemini: Kisses back to you my new friend!
April: Yes, enjoy your years of parenting... and keep your union strong so you can enjoy each other when they're gone. :~D
SusaM: Thanks for sharing your wisdom and the secrets of your long successful marriage. You two are equally sweet together.
Angela: Thanks for stopping by today. I appreciate your participation. :~D
Tami: Great! Glad to know you take your kissing as it comes... :~D
Bethany: Enjoy your blog hopping!
Tammy: I remember that (sad) book you reference very well. Now THEY were the ultimate in Us-ness! Hope to see you back in blogdom soon. :~D
Faith: My oh my... kissing in the woods in the rain. I can relate to that one too!
NiceA: So happy that you could join us today. :~D
Julie: Thanks for being part of Marriage Monday today. I appreciate your strong support. :~D
Jennifer: LOL, "cutie patootie!" You two are "cutie patootie" too.
Theanniversaryshop: Amen to this! "Who says the Bible's boring? It's an amazing love story, far more passionate than anything Hollywood can cook up."
Tonya: Based on your post, you seem less romantically challenged than you think. Again, happy anniversary.
Sharon: Thanks for joining us today. So happy to have you here!
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