There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand: the way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a snake on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a maiden. (Prov 30:18-19 NIV)
Top Tips For Married Women
1. From this day forward promise, swear you will shower him with two words that are like air and water: "Thank You."
2. When he compliments you, smile broadly. Tell him you appreciate it.
3. Tuck his photo in your wallet. Let him know it’s there.
4. Looking good is feeling good. Don't ask him if you’re getting fat.
5. Don’t criticize. Especially when he gobbles down a bag of potato chips
or cookies.
6. Don’t give him driving directions unless he asks. Just smile. He’ll figure
it out.
7. Cook his favorite meals. Cooking is primal. It’s potent.
8. Make direct requests with as few words as possible. Get to the
point fast.
9. When he makes a mistake, bite your tongue. Keep biting.
10. Give him some space. Let him do "guy" things without you.
From this day forward promise, swear you will shower him with two words that are like air and water:
"Thank You."
11. E-mail him magazine and newspaper articles on topics of interest
to him.
12. Don’t expect him to be a great dancer. Be glad he’s willing to wiggle around and look foolish.
13. When he talks about his job, consider him the expert. Just listen quietly without making encouraging noises. (eg. “Oh” “I see” or
“Uh Huh.”)
14. Learn the language of lingerie. White means “Tenderness.” Black means “Please Me.” Red means “I’m Hot.” Flannel means “Let’s Cuddle.”
15. Kiss him hello and good-bye every single day.
16. Set the lovemaking mood in advance: a lighted candle, his favorite perfume, music you both enjoy.
17. Develop an open attitude about "quickies" especially when
you’re tired.
18. Plan a "gourmet" lovemaking event once-a-month. Don’t allow boredom to set in.
19. Reconnect through established rituals. A daily phone call, an evening walk, a weekly date night. Make these a priority.
20. Take care of yourself. When you’re happy and in a good mood, he thinks he’s done something to please you. You earn mega-points.
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Looking for the Marriage Monday meme? Please visit Christine, at Fruit in Season. Originator of the MM meme, Christine has volunteered to be our guest hostess in May, June, July, and August. Today's topic is "Seasons of Marriage." I encourage you to get involved!
Life becomes super-busy for us during the warmer months, so I'll be off until September. See you back here for Marriage Monday when the weather begins to cool. Ciao for now!
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14 Comments:
What a great list. I twittered it. I hope to squeeze mine in sometime tomorrow.
Blessings,
Jan
Great advice! I saw some places I did O.K. then some places I need work (especially #17!)
Great advice. I was just thinking about this this morning. There are some areas that I can definitely improve. Thanks for the timely post! Have a great week!
Awesome list, thanks! I'll probably link to this on Friday.
Thanks for the email shout-out, and for the comment today. Hope you have a great week!
Great list! Before you know it, you're in a rut. This list helps us stay out of one.
This is a great list of tips! Have a great week.
Know/learn his love language and then speak it daily. (awesome list btw...I love the lingerie one!!)
Good stuff, e-Mom, but now you've got me thinking about the language of lingerie. How am I supposed to concentrate in Bible study this morning?
I love the proverb you shared. I ponder it often. I need to work on the one of getting to the point quickly...I'll start right now! Thank you for sharing.
Jan: Thanks so much for the tweet my friend!
Kim: Amen!
Alicia: You have a good week too.
Christine: Thanks for the linky love. :~D
Tonya: Amen, ruts are NOT good!
BP: Thanks for stopping by. :~D
Faith: Lol, yes, the lingerie!
Tami: You can do it girl!
The Romantic Porch: Right, I need to get to the point more quickly too. :~D
Hi and Thank you for stopping by over at The Point. I so appreciate you leaving a comment on my FEAR post. Your blog is wonderful, especially this post on marriage. I'll certainly be back to feast on what the Lord places on your blog. God bless you.
Leah
Warning! Male intrusion!
I just discovered your blog. As a man, I was surprised at how many of these things my wife does...no wonder I am so happy in my marriage!
One fantastic quality my wife has is that she simply does not nag me. She will remind me now and then if there is something of importance to her, but the fact that she does not harp on things make it easy for to turn the feeling around and decide to please her by doing what she needs done rather than appease her by giving in to her constant nagging. She refuses to nag me and that is a very smart and Godly quality!
When I am pleasing her, we both win. She gets what she wants or needs and I get praise and approval for blessing her. Beyond that, what she wants done is almost always beneficial to the household so it is a wise thing for me to accomplish.
When I am appeasing her, I am doing so grudgingly and she is getting her way at the price of peace and joy. There will be resentment and distance as a result. Or, I may decide that the nagging means I am going to be stubborn and simply dig in my heels and refuse to do what she wants at all. I am the head of the house, after all, and I can decide to say no. It is obvious that this situation is not one conducive to happy marriage!
So, I do occasionally put my arm around my wife and ask her what is concerning her and often I will announce out loud what day I am going to fix what is broken (usually on Saturdays) or put up or buy the new thing she wants. I am then "taken by the words of my mouth" and am then obligated by God and my own words to do it rather than feeling as if I am allowing my wife to boss me around.
I have made the decision and spoken the words and then I make a note of it so I make sure to follow up and follow through.
I do not remember whether this was chicken or egg. Did I begin asking regularly what was not perfect in the world of wife first, or did I notice how wonderfully she failed to nag me first? No matter, this is the way of life in our marriage and it is one of probably a hundred components that I probably don't even think about but are a result of applying real love to marriage.
IF any men read this? Please, men, decide to pray out loud every day with your wife! Debbie and I do it at night before bed, but any time works. There is discomfort in praying out loud in front of each other at first but soon it becomes normal and at times even enjoyable. We usually lay in bed together and hold each other as we pray, but not always. Whatever works. I am certain praying together will result in more answered prayer and a stronger relationship with your spouse and your God.
Also, read a chapter of the Bible out loud with your wife! We are all so busy that every day may be out, the prayer is more important for your relationship with God and each other. But be a leader and find three or four times during the week when you can grab her, go sit on the couch and just read a chapter out loud. You and she can take turns being the reader.
I never knew about the language of lingerie! Hhhhmmmmm. Don't give directions? I need to tape my mouth shut there! I love listening to him talk about his work! I NEVER ask if he thinks I'm fat because I'd be worried he'd think, "Yes" - and there's no reason to give that thought the opportunity to expand. Thank You! For such a great reminder to build that hulking, wonderful man of mine up! I always think he's as strong as Atlas!
Happy New Year!
I just found this internet site today. It is very interesting and has helpful advice. I laughed out loud on #20 of the Marriage:20 Ways to Please... Thank you for making my day. My husband and I have been married 36 years. It keeps getting better. Terri
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