
The Surprise of Christian Marriage
If so, your marriage is counter-cultural.
And much to my surprise, mine is too.
I watched my (college-educated) Mom and her many friends prioritize their families and use their free time for volunteer work. None of them had full or part-time jobs. As a little girl, I loved dolls and “playing house.” So it seemed natural that eventually, some day I would become a SAHM, just like all the grown-up women in my life. (Complete BIO)
Color Me Surprised
Over the past four decades, it’s been a huge surprise to watch my siblings and most of my childhood girlfriends grow up and advance their careers in the paid workforce. Today, only a handful of my Boomer peers have made marriage, child-rearing, and homemaking their full-time occupation.So what happened? Why are marriage, mothering, and homemaking no longer valued and respected—and even under assault in our culture?
History of Modern Feminism
The answers to these questions can be found in Carolyn McCulley’s new non-fiction book, Radical Womanhood: Feminine Faith in a Feminist World. (Moody Publishers, October 2008) A Gen X-er, and an unmarried former feminist, McCulley's writing is completely compelling. The following endorsements summarize the book’s contents very well:“In this carefully researched and clearly written book, Carolyn McCulley exposes the historical roots and contemporary bitter fruits of the Feminist movement. She shows that in contrast to the truly radical way to affirm femininity is to adopt the Biblical perspective on womanhood. This is a book that needs to be read by all women - and by men too!”—Iain Duguid, Professor of Old Testament,
Grove City College
Carolyn traces the first, second, and third waves of feminist ideology, and discusses how these ideas have influenced all of us more than we might have ever known.
“How wonderful when biblical clarity and conviction expose and replace worldly confusion and deception. Radical Womanhood does just this on the profound impact of feminism within our culture and particularly within the church. Carolyn McCulley combines solid research along with engaging personal testimony (her own and that of others) to give a clear picture of feminism’s influence over the past two centuries. Carolyn traces the first, second, and third waves of feminist ideology, and discusses how these ideas have influenced all of us more than we might have ever known. The foundation of this discussion is God’s Word, and Carolyn regularly demonstrates how God’s eternal truth is the answer to feminism’s questions and confusion. We highly recommend this book to discern God’s abiding truth as it relates to one of the most powerful deceptions of our age.”—Bruce and Jodi Ware, Southern Baptist Theological Seminary
“Several decades ago, feminism redefined the meaning of womanhood. Today, most women would reject a 'feminist' label, but have nonetheless absorbed its ideas. Like an intravenous drug coursing through the vein of an unconscious patient, feminist thought has thoroughly permeated our culture. In this insightful, engaging, and relevant book, Carolyn McCulley encourages us to wake up and become radical—to live as biblically savvy women in the modern world. It’s an excellent read and a stirring challenge!”—Mary A. Kassian, Author The Feminist Mistake
A Timeless Spiritual Battle
Carolyn aptly points out that contemporary feminism is a manifestation of a timeless spiritual battle that began in the Garden of Eden. We're all feminists at heart. We lust for control, and we raise our fists at God's created order. Men aren’t the problem, says McCulley. Sin is. “Sin warps everything, including the good that God has designed in being a man or a woman. Women sin against men and men sin against women, and everyone sins against God and falls short of His standard of holiness and perfection. Sin is the reason men have oppressed women and women have usurped men... Sin is the reason we need a Savior…
The glorious hope we have is that Christ came to rescue us from this spiral of sin and sinful response. Only the gospel can accurately diagnose the issues on both sides and offer both the good news of forgiveness for our sins and the restoration of our relationship first with God and then with each other. That is true liberation for women… and men.”
Biblical Womanhood is Not For the Weak
If you’re ready for a challenging read, and the opportunity to understand the source of confusion surrounding our God-given roles as women, I strongly recommend you get this book. Personally, I've gleaned much from its pages.
Using a narrative approach appreciated by postmodern readers, McCulley incorporates solid, biblically-based teaching for personal application and growth. “Far from taking a combative approach toward understanding the complexities of female identity, Radical Womanhood presents the pro-woman truth of the Bible. Biblical womanhood is not for the weak—Carolyn will show you how to be radical.”
Our Post-Feminist Culture: The Gains & Losses
YouTube: McCulley discusses the gains and losses of living in a

Related Links
1. "Confessions of a Recovering Feminist" by a Gen "Y" writer, Courtney Tarter.
2. "The Mommy Wars," a chapter excerpt from Radical Womanhood by Boundless Webzine.
3. For more Marriage Monday posts on The Surprise of Christian Marriage, click here.
4. Semicolon's Saturday Review of Books is here.
Your raves, rants, reactions? Go ahead,be honest.
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. (Prov. 14:1 NIV)
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18 Comments:
I've never seen myself as counter-culture, but I guess I am. I'm college-educated, had a wonderful career and, now, can't imagine giving anyone else the honor of the day-to-day with my girls. I think that this is a book I would find enlightening. Will be adding it to my list. Thanks!
i am thankful and honored to be chosen and able to stay at home and care for my little girls.
people used to ask my mom what she did for a living and she'd say, (proudly) "i'm a household enginerer....ie a mommy!" and then they'd usually say..."oh...but what do you really do -- for money? occupation?"
what a joy and a priviledge to have the opportunity to pour into the next generation.i can't imagine a higher calling in life.
I just wanted to stop in and say congratulations for being one of the Internet Cafe's Top 100 Christian Women's Blogs of 2008!
Very nice post.
I loved this post and whole heartedly agree. My only thoughts are that I think men are as brainwashed into feminism as most woman. I know many men today who would look down on a woman who "just wanted to be a housewife". That has been my experience, even in Christian circles.
This sounds like a good book. I'm so saddened when even Christians seem to look on a woman staying home as being "lazy" and not contributing to the family. It's sad that a home-maker's role has been devalued in this era.
Sounds interesting. It seems like there are so many who are staying home yet there is still the idea that you're wasting your education or something if you're at home instead of in the work world.
This book sounds so interesting...
There are many days I am tempted to buy into the notion that I am wasting my days...but I know in my heart this is was God called me to do in this season of life. And more specifically, to home school my children.
It's important to also have something that is just "me"...writing, blogging, hobbies, ect...but this season of life really goes by so quickly so I feel SO blessed right now!
What makes me sad is that a lot of women think staying home with their kids is a burden. When I tell people what I do they answer with a "Oh I couldnt do that". Its the attitude as a whole that makes us lose the fact that children are a blessing and that staying home with them and not dropping them off at any chance we get is even bigger. These years are so short and i say, we can go to work when they are out of the house. I'm looking forward to reading this book!
I have been blessed by God with giftings that I can use in the classroom AND at home with my daughters and husband. The Lord allowed me to attend a 4 year Christian college before grad school at a state university. In college we were encouraged to see our career choice as a mission field. We are ALL called to the Great Commission. Jesus didn't say just men or just women. Jesus called all believers to spread the Good News. Some of us do that in the public (or Private) sector. I had the privelage of being a stay at home mom to both of my daughters for a total of 6 years full time and now for 11 years part time, throughout my 18 years of marriage. I don't feel as though I have been disobedient to God's Word nor have I called my self a feminist. I am blessed to have my hearts desire (teaching part time and being home with my children). I know some women can't or won't do that. I am also thankful that I am confident in knowing what is God's will for MY life and that I don't have to rely on author's (she is SINGLE..I wonder what she would do,think, say, believe if she got married and then had to decide on giving up this career of hers). I don't take much stock in women authors who write about issues that they themselves have not yet experienced. Although it does sound scripturally based which is a good thing. Bottom line for me and my husband: we pray about each season that we are in. Nothing is forever. Women who don't HAVE to work need to count their blessings. Because there are so many who do. (i am not one of them and my husband has told me he loves that I am using my gifts in the public school setting. He also is in agreement if I ever want to go back to staying home full time). We need to learn to be content, as women, as moms, as wives, as PEOPLE no matter what circumstances we are in. And we need to know and do the Lord's will for OUR lives.
Hi e-Mom,
Some great suggestions here. I know about 10 years ago I read a book, The Lies Women believe and the Truth that Sets Them Free. It was wonderful. It was like a light bulb going on for me. I bought into some of the feminist stuff and found it never made me happy only more stressed out.
I found freedom from a lot of old ideas that were keeping me in bondage. Okay, wow, guess I needed to get that out.
Thank you so much for letting me host Marriage Monday. The posts have been wonderful and filled with God's grace. Also, congrads on being one of the top 100. Hugs, me
MiPa: I think you are someone who would get a lot out of this book. I do hope you read it. :~D
Roo: what a joy and a priviledge to have the opportunity to pour into the next generation.i can't imagine a higher calling in life. I say, AMEN!
Laurie Ann: Thanks for visiting Chrysalis! :~D
Denise: Thanks my friend.
Stephanie: I think you're on the mark with this: My only thoughts are that I think men are as brainwashed into feminism as most woman.
Barbara H: I agree with you: It's sad that a home-maker's role has been devalued in this era.
Bp: Right, I've run into this too: ...there is still the idea that you're wasting your education or something if you're at home instead of in the work world.
Tammy: As a homeschooler, you're making the ultimate sacrifice... one which will pay dividends over and over.
And I completely agree with you on this point: It's important to also have something that is just "me"...writing, blogging, hobbies, ect... Hugs!
Ambrosia: Yes children are a blessing. I hope you can read this book. Thanks for stopping by today. :~D
Faith: I've enjoyed reading your story. I'm glad you've sought the Lord's will for your life in particular. You're privileged to be using your teaching gifts both at home and at school. You do seem to live an especially blessed life! I'm delighted to know you have your heart's desire. :~D
Lynn: That's interesting Lynn. Susan at Forever His also mentioned "Lies that Women Believe." I haven't read it yet. Now I must. I do agree that a lot of feminist ideology adds unnecessary stress to our lives. PTL that you've found some new freedoms.
Thanks again for your service today. You've been a dedicated and wonderful hostess. Hugs!
I get a lot of slack for being at home.. my family thinks it is horrible, or at least that's the way they make me feel!
I'm glad to be home, i think my kids deserve it, and remembering my own latch-key childhood, i don't wish that on anyone!
I just wanted to stop by to say congratulations in the recognition of your blog with the Internet Cafe and may you continue to keep your heart close to the LORD that all that you write brings honor and glory to HIM. God bless you!
**P.S. I enjoyed this message! Powerful!
This is a very interesting post. I've noticed a subtle shift in the thinking of women in the church. Fewer people stay home full-time, but I'm not sure it's all driven by feminist thinking. How do economic concerns play into the choices women make?
Amydeanne: So sorry you were a latch key kid. I'm glad you've made a different choice for your children, despite all the slack. Hugs.
Lisa Shaw: Thank you so much for stopping by! Blessings.
TamiB: You raise a very good question: How do economic concerns play into the choices women make? Certainly, in today's economy, probably they factor in quite heavily. :~D
A note from Carolyn McCulley:
Thank you so much -- that was a comprehensive and very kind review. I appreciate you including the video, too! I'm honored by your willingness to recommend my book. Thanks again -- and may God richly bless you as you serve His people.
With appreciation,
Carolyn McCulley
www.carolynmcculley.com
solofemininity.blogs.com
radicalwomanhood.com
Great review! I too liked this book a lot. I'm glad you pointed me this direction!
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