Marriage: Understanding the Male Sex Drive

The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. (1 Cor 7:3 NIV)

T or F? He Only Wants One Thing

Ever seen your husband go bananas over a bouquet of flowers? Does he ever sneak off to read romantic chick lit? Seems ludicrous, doesn’t it.

So why don’t men seem to crave romance the way women do?

The answer lies in our God-given wiring. Simply stated, women proceed from romance and communication to sex (spiritual to physical), while men travel in the opposite direction (physical to spiritual).

I’m going to challenge you to do a little experiment. Listen to the following quote, and then observe your husband’s behavior over the next two weeks. You might be surprised to discover that when your man is craving sex, his deeper need is to connect with you emotionally.

“We’re all aware that sex tends to be more important to men while romance is more important to women, but we generally don’t understand why. Without a deeper understanding of this fundamental difference, women commonly underestimate the importance of sex for men and many times judge them as superficial for wanting only one thing.

A woman’s judgments begin to soften when she discovers the real reasons that some men seem to want only sex… for many men, sexual arousal is the key for helping them connect with and realize their loving feelings. It is through sex that a man’s heart opens, allowing him to experience both his loving feelings and his hunger for love as well.

Ironically, it is sex that allows a man to feel his needs for love, while it is giving and receiving love that helps a woman to feel her hunger for sex.”— John Gray, PhD from Mars and Venus in the Bedroom

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