A man and his ever-nagging wife went on vacation to Jerusalem. While they were there, the wife passed away. The undertaker told the husband, "You can have her shipped home for $5000, or you can bury her here in the Holy Land, for $150.
"The man thought about it and told him he would just have her shipped home. The undertaker asked, "Why would you spend $5000 to ship your wife home, when it would be wonderful to be buried here and you would only spend $150?"
The man replied, "Long ago a man died here, was buried here, and three days later he rose from the dead."
"I just can't take that chance."
Marriage is for Happiness Too
We laugh at jokes like this because there's an element of truth to the story. Sometimes we wonder if couples really can stay in love for a lifetime.This article is addressed to Christian wives who already understand that "iron sharpens iron" (Prov 27:17). Let’s assume you believe in commitment and the "holiness" side of the equation in marriage. However, from time-to-time you seriously question the "happiness" side. Today, I want to encourage you by offering:
B. Practical Tools
C. A Reminder—Joy That Lasts
A. There’s Hope for Your Happiness
Happiness and emotional closeness really are possible! Perhaps you’re familiar with the Christian classic,
A Severe Mercy by C.S. Lewis’ friend, Sheldon Vanauken. Listen to Sheldon as he talks about the love he shared with his wife Davy:
What emerged from our talk was nothing less, we believed, than the central "secret" of enduring love: sharing. "Look" we said, "what is it that draws two people into closeness and love?
Of course there’s the mystery of physical attraction, but beyond that it's the things they share. We both love strawberries and ships and collies and poems and all beauty, and all those things bind us together. Those sharings just happened to be; but what we must do now is share everything.
Everything! If one of us like anything, there must be something to like in it—and the other one must find it… That way we shall create a thousand strands, great and small, that will link us together… And our trust in each other will not only be based on love and loyalty but on the fact of a thousand sharings—a thousand strands twisted into something unbreakable."
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B. Seven Tools for Creating Loving Feelings
The following links from Christian counselor, Willard F. Harley Jr. Ph.D will help you create and sustain happiness in your marriage. Dr. Harley's research reveals that couples that fall in love and stay in love never divorce.
1. Your Love Bank
2. Your Most Important Emotional Needs
3. Love Busters
4. Emotional Honesty
5. Three States of Mind in Marriage
6. How One Spouse Can Lead the Other Back to Intimacy
7. A Summary of Dr. Harley's Basic Concepts
C. A Reminder: Joy That Lasts
What would you give to have joy in your marriage? Not just happiness, but enduring, deep-rooted joy that weathers every storm? It's yours to have—provided you go to the right source. Here's a hint: It's not your spouse.
Like virtually every husband and wife, each of you entered your marriage with expectations of how your mate would meet your needs. Maybe you've discovered that the reality is a little different. Neither of you is capable of re-charging the other person's joy battery.
Only one power source is strong enough to provide an unfailing flow of the things you're really looking for—and that's God. A rich, vital relationship with Jesus Christ will spill over into every other relationship in your life, especially your marriage. Joy That Lasts
can help you make this a powerful, daily reality.—Gary Smalley
The Marriage Monday meme meets here at Chrysalis the first Monday of every month. Similar to a group writing project or blog Carnival, contributors post their thoughts on a topic, and then link up here. Afterward, contributors enjoy visiting as many other linkers as they have time for.
Welcome to Marriage Monday
By majority vote, our topic today is, "Marriage: For Happiness or Holiness?" Sisters, this is not a trick question. It’s an opportunity to share your wisdom, experience, Scripture verses, quotes, and other insights on the purpose of marriage. All points of view are welcome and encouraged.
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Next month, please share your courtship story with us. May’s topic will be, "The Crazy Way We Met." Then in June, you'll have the opportunity to share your memories of one of the happiest days of your life: your wedding day!
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