21 Important FAQs
Please be aware that this article contains explicit language. It’s designed for the benefit of mature grown-ups like you and me.
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In Intimate Issues, the authors answer twenty-one important questions women ask about married sex. Refreshing and biblical, Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus tackle tough topics, misconceptions, and wrong attitudes that keep couples from experiencing the beauty and passion that our Creator intended for marriage. From the table of contents:
1. What Does God Think About Sex?
2. How Can I Be Godly and Sensuous?
3. How Do I Shift Into Sexual Gear?
4. How Can I Relate When He’s a Microwave and
I’m a Crockpot?
5. What Do I Do When I Don’t Want to Do It?
6. Where Can I Go Buy a New Body?
7. How Do I Make Love with Children Wrapped
Around My Knees?
8. How Can I Get Over the Guilt of Past Sexual Sin?
9. I’m Attracted to Another Man! Help?
10. How Can I Remain Faithful in a Faithless World?
11. What Do I Do When HE has a Headache?
12. Read 12-14 here.
15. How Can Sex Go From Boring to Sizzling?
18. Read 16-21 here.
In this excerpt quoted from her article, "What does God think about sex?" Rheta Murray summarizes six main points from Intimate Issues that illuminate God’s wedding gift to husbands and wives.
• God gave the gift of sex so that married couples have the ability to create life—After God created Adam and Eve from dust, he could have continued to create mankind in this manner to populate the Earth or any other method he chose. Instead, in his perfect wisdom, God designed sex as the best plan for men and women to produce life—the best way to make a baby.
• God gave the gift of sex for intimate oneness—In Genesis, God says that a man should leave his parents and be joined to his wife, and the two of them become one… According to the authors, the Bible calls marriage a picture of the spiritual oneness he wants to have with us.
• God gave the gift of sex for knowledge—Through God’s gift of sex, a husband and wife receive an intimate knowledge of one another that they have with no one else. This familiarity brings depth to their relationship.
• God gave the gift of sex for pleasure—God devoted an entire book of the Bible, Song of Solomon, to the subject of sexual pleasure in marriage. The Scriptures, Linda and Lorraine say, talk more about the pleasures of sex than it does about reproducing and "being one…"
• God gave the gfit of sex as a defense against temptation—God’s gift of sexuality can be used as a powerful force for good or for evil. God wrapped his gift within the marriage relationship to make certain his gift was used for good…
• God gave the gift of sex for comfort—Part of God’s plan is to impart comfort. Lovemaking comforts because it releases tension. In 2 Samuel 12:24, after David and Bathsheba’s infant son died, David comforted his wife by making love to her…
Related: Along with their husbands, Dillow and Pintus have written a follow-up marriage manual, Intimacy Ignited based on the Song of Solomon. Dillow is also the entertaining and bestselling author of Creative Counterpart.
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